• intentional • Wake up. Coffee. News. Second cup of coffee..

• intentional • Wake up. Coffee. News. Second cup of coffee. Workout. Shower. Breakfast. Work. Possibly more coffee. Lunch. Errands. Dinner. Last second emails. Time with your partner. Cuddle. Check work again. Sleep. Repeat. Life never stops. So, how do we find time to? Last week I was sick in bed with a head cold for a few days, and my partner had to wait on me and our little human and all 6 of our cats alone. For us hyper independent humans, being taken care of can feel so burdensome. I don’t like feeling weak or like I’m making someone else’s day harder but this is what a partnership is. When talking about the trials and tribulations of a relationship, the “we’ve been through our ups and downs,” this is what we are talking about. Not cheating and pathological lying, not gaslighting or abuse. Those are not normal ups & downs. In sickness & in health, for richer or for poorer, your person is meant to be your partner for real Human experiences. People ask me all the time, “how do you know M is the person for you?” Here is my answer. She wants to be. In the first year of our relationship, I had to work two jobs. I’d wake up at 5 am, work in an office until 4, drive home, change my clothes and then work at a bar from 6pm to 2 am. I had a little human at home, and with my busy schedule I couldnt go on many dates. So instead She chose to be at every night shift I had, just for the opportunity to maybe talk to me on my breaks. Then, only six months into us dating, her sister passed away. She didn’t push me away or say she was going through too much for a new relationship. She let me be there for her. I spent a week & a half in the hospital helping take care of her when she was grieving and also taking care of her family. Eventually, life slowed & I was able to get my own place and quit working two jobs. Then I got laid off. And instead of saying my life wasn’t her responsibility, she stood up and paid for groceries and helped with bills on her not even livable wage, to support the family she Wanted to be a part in. We’ve LITERALLY been stranded in the desert for hours without drinkable water. I nearly had heatstroke and fell into a cactus and I remember thinking to myself if we could just find our way to water or back to a car, if we could make it through THIS then we can make it though anything. Life or death, for richer or poorer, this woman has been my rock. Sometimes the rock in my shoe, but she is always willing to hear me and grow and work together to better our relationship. As I am for her. Life has changed so much since then and now she stays home, doesn’t have to work because I provide for her every need. Everything she could want or dream of I would bend earth to make it happen for her. So, How do we know we are it for each other ? Because on days where work is to much, where life is too much, we choose each other. Love is a verb, an act, it’s not an accident... love is intentional, and can be as simple as indulging in our morning showers.